Hi Hi Hi everyone. Good afternoon/evening, depending on your time zone! Hope you guys are good and kicking? I’ve missed you guys a lot😭 Did you miss me too? *Sniffs* 🥺🥺
Okay I came with another interesting and pressing topic. I wanted to release this write up since forever, but I didn’t have the strength to compose it. Even though I had my topic. Yeah I know, it happens.
I’m sure some of you would be like “depression again?!” Yes! Depression!!! Have you been through it? Or do you know anyone going through it? I bet we know at least, 1 person that’s been through it or is going through it right now. It’s a really pressing topic people don’t really talk about.
So, diving right in, I’ll like to define what depression is;
It’s a mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity.
It’s a medical condition in which a person feels very sad and anxious and often has physical symptoms, such as being unable to sleep, excessive thinking, etc.
It’s also a state of feeling very sad and without hope.
This mental condition is rampant in our teenagers and youths of today, which nobody really notices or pays attention to. People just say “this fellow is weird” and then ceases to interact well with such a person. This is the main reason for suicidal cases. The thoughts I believe some think about before they die is “who cares anyway? I need to rest from all these troubles.”
A friend of mine comes to my house, a guy in particular to come and talk. To pour his out, because I’m the only person he can talk to. He came almost a week ago. We would spend minutes talking, almost close to an hour. He lives with his mum and siblings. His dad is late and he’s the first son. Things are really going on in his family. Their standard of living is less than the ones we call the “average people”. So many things are on his head, he has to make so many sacrifices. The friends that surround him have tried to influence him negatively but because of the fear he has for his mum, he didn’t fully fall into their traps. There are times he would go to his friends place and they’d offer him alcohol to drink and then a cigarette to smoke. He said he didn’t want his friends to say he’s a coward or a weakling so he accepted drinks from them but not a cigarette or weed. I’ve told him severally that he needs to change his circle of friends.
He went on to tell me that he has been depressed for a while now, he does things he shouldn’t do (undisclosed). He said, just the fact that he sees his family suffering and can’t do anything to it breaks his heart. He was like “Bolu I’ve thought of running away to meet people” and I was like “who do you want to run to? Where do you want to go?”, he further replied saying ” I want to go out and make money. Probably meet some yahoo boys (internet fraudsters) and then hook up so they can show me the way”. I was surprised. Obviously, a boy with no patience could think about something like that but I never expected him to. You know why? Because of his mum. She has really suffered because of her children. What if he runs and then the mum starts to search for him and from there she dies, God forbid. Her blood will be on his neck, wouldn’t it? That was the same way I told him and I noticed he got something from what I said. I was like look at me, I’m also going through mine. My depression isn’t just as worse as his. I was like “a fine exterior doesn’t mean the inside is fine. It could be cracked, broken and shattered.” I just talked to him like a normal person should, out of empathy. I also encouraged him with some quotes in the Bible. I told him, we only need to make our path straight with God after that, leave it to the master to handle. He asked me a question he thought was rhetoric, “what can I do when I get to enter school now? I can’t afford to disturb mummy for money when I get to school.” I just looked at him and smiled. I said “do you know you’re very talented? You can draw, sing, you can make tie and dye with several designs, put it to use. Package anyone of it well and start with it, especially the tie and dye stuff. See me ehnn, I don’t have anything. I can’t do anything. I’m still thinking about my own life like this.” He laughed and said I also have a talent. I asked him what that was and he said, the talent of talking to people and encouraging them even in your pain. He said put yours also to use. I laughed and asked how? I said I already have a blog and I reach out to people with my words. I just hope it’s encouraging and people appreciate it.
One day, I’ll also like to stand on a stage and talk, reach out to millions of people with my words.
In summary, we have to try and notice the people around us. Some people could be a JOKER ( a person with a smiley mask on his crying face). We need to watch out and try to help. Some of us just want to talk. Just your words of encouragement goes a long way. One of my friends told me this morning that if you don’t have anyone to go to, I’m always here. Do you know how long that simple statement went?? A feeling of relief went through me, “so I’m still relevant?” Because there are times I feel I do not exist, like nobody cares. This same feeling and thought goes through some of the people that are around you. Lend a listening ear to others. Some people need it!
If you’re going through a depressed state in your life now and you’re reading this, just know you’ll be fine! Everything’s going to be fine and look for someone around you that you trust and pour your heart out to. We’re humans, even after pouring our hearts out to God, we still need someone to talk to. Remember, nobody cares how much you know, but how much you care.
I hope you gained a thing or two from this write up. Thanks a whole lot for taking time to read this!!❤️❤️❤️❤️ Tife loves you!