Happy New Month Friends. I pray this Month favours us all. I’m back again. I’ll be continuing my talk on “Self Love”. I didn’t get to finish it the last time.
From where I stopped…
I always want to make myself happy. If I don’t, who will?
When I get the things I want, I still share with my sisters. No matter how little the things are. There are times I just close my eyes and spend, having faith that God’ll provide another for me, not minding how little.
When I cook at home, because my younger sister and I take turns, I’ll make sure I serve my food immediately after my mum’s (that’s if it’s the food I like) and I’ll make sure I satisfy myself not minding the quantity or size of food my sisters will have leftππ(I do this because my food is something you can bite your fingers off forπ my sisters will say it’s Maggi,but I’ll say it’s still sweeter than what you cookπ). My younger sister hates this part of me and we argue a lot, but I find it amusing. I’ll say “I know how to take care of myself, if you like dull yourself and be waiting for me to take a small portion of food or anything we share, according to how old we are, you’ll sleep there my dear.” I know when and when not to act the way I do. When I know it’s easy for them to cook another food, I take as much as I can. Don’t look at me as a foodie π I eat, not too much, but I eat! I’m not selfish either, but sometimes I act that way at homeππ You should get meeee!! Am I making sense to anyone?
In summary, I do not dull myself. I fight for whatever I want and stand on my ground. These things makes me happy.
Generalizing…
I was added to a girl’s group chat last week and the talk was also centred on self love. People put down different definitions of self love and I’ll like to share some.
[2/24, 9:19 PM] Being in LOVE with yourself not minding your shortcomings and inabilities especially those we can’t help.
Maybe your body size, shape, face, or whatever makes you “YOU”
[2/24, 9:21 PM] Self love from my P.O.V is willing and focusing on giving what is best for yourself, overlooking your flaws, trying to obtain the ultimate good for yourselfβ€οΈβ€οΈ
[2/24, 9:29 PM] Self love isn’t just a feeling, because some days you’ll wake up and have the highest confidence level ever and other days, you’ll wake up and hate everything about yourself- from how you look to who you areβ¦But self love is about choosing to love and value yourself and do what is good, for you everyday.β€
From the definitions above, we already know what self love is all about. Loving ourselves in any situation or circumstance we find ourselves. Learning to live for yourself and God alone. Not acting on people’s opinions about you.

Do you know the story of Sultan, the tallest man in the world? He lives in the city of Mardin, right by the border between Syria and Turkey. As a child, he noticed he began growing tall, abnormally tall. Then he was taken to the hospital and they discovered a tumor in his brain that made him grow so tall, at the age of 10. By then, people already started to run away from him and began to hate him. It wasn’t easy for him. He had abnormal large body parts. It was hard to find a job, walk around and most importantly, to find love. He began to hate himself for that. He was taken to a doctor to remove the tumor. But by then, he was already too large. What could make him happy again? Nothing! He began self hate. He fell down at a point and broke his leg because he was too tall. He had to start using a cane to support him to walk. Later on, he thought over about everything. He believed God decided to make him that way and started to encourage himself. He became happy because of his body, instead of thinking of his body as a curse, he thinks about it as a blessing. This positive thought towards himself, made him famous and was finally put into the “Guinness Book of World Record” for being the tallest man in the world. Now he has travelled to over 128 countries, in a first class airplane.

What I’m trying to bring out is this, make yourself happy. No matter the condition, what you face, how you look like, what you talk like or how you behave. Everyone’s unique in their own ways. God created us to show forth his works. How strong and marvellous He is. If you’re part of the people who body shame, please stop it. You can’t even make a single mosquito, so who are you to body shame others who you can’t create? Instead, show people love. Make them love themselves and accept themselves the way they are.

I’ve come to the end of the talk on “Self Love”. Don’t forget to share, like and comment. Please do leave a comment ππ
Thank You! β€οΈ